1. You are whole in Jesus. There is no better feeling knowing the one who created you loves you and you don’t need to explain who you are to Him. Having a relationship with God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit is the greatest blessing one could ever have. This relationship transforms us from the inside out and makes us whole individuals. What do I mean by whole? Your mind, soul, spirit, and body align with God’s original design. We no longer have an itch for things apart from His will for our lives. We prioritize our lives around what pleases Him, and in doing so, we realize that’s what gives us true peace, joy and freedom. We don’t have the need for anything except to have what He wants and already has given us in Christ Jesus. Even the blessings in our lives testify to His goodness and who He is.
2. You want to be in a relationship to love, not for love. As a Christian, when you have journeyed with the Lord long enough without pretense, you can confidently say He alone completes you. Your relationship with God triumphs every other desire you might have.
Culture, especially pop-culture, TV shows, and secular music expresses individuals desiring “ to be in love”. But I have yet to see a true depiction of people “wanting to love” another in a romantic relationship due to God’s overflowing love in their heart. This makes sense because the Bible describes God’s love for us as that between a husband and his bride. We, as believers, are called the Bride of Christ. Yet what’s interesting is that Jesus didn’t come because He needed our love; He came to save us, love us and show us how to love the way God loves. Wanting to love an individual requires you to see them as Christ sees them and not only that, but show them what this looks like through your actions. If more people had this mindset, divorce and dysfunctional relationships would be unheard of in societies around the world.
3. You understand two is better than one. One person can do amazing things but they can do greater if they’re partnered with someone. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, it says, “Two are better than one,because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Even God understood this when He said in Genesis 2:18, it is not good for man to be alone and that He would make a suitable helper for Adam. God’s original vision for Adam was for him to take dominion on the earth. God already knew this would only be so if Adam had an equal partner to make it happen.
Do you have a dream or a vision that is bigger than you? Are you working to see it come to fruition? Then this is also a green flag that you are ready to be in a relationship; so you can get a good return on your labor, as we read earlier from Ecclesiastes 4:9.
4. You desire to leave a legacy through a family. God’s the one who created the concept of marriage and family. In Genesis 1:28, God blessed Adam and Eve and said, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” God told Adam and Eve this from the beginning because He didn’t want them to remain two but wanted them to reproduce to fill the earth with families. Family has always been on the heart of God and is how we can leave a legacy in the earth. Having a family of your own is another blessing that further reveals to us God as our Father and us as His sons and daughters in Christ. We are able to appreciate this revelation even more within a family dynamic, especially with our children.
5. You desire to be married to glorify God through your marriage. You are content as a single but desire to be married to glorify God in marriage. It’s natural for one to find themselves in their singlehood longing for a godly partnership. This feeling is not the same as one being tired/bored being single or wanting to experience the feeling of “being in love.” Instead, it’s the heart posture of a single who fully embraced singlehood. They have learned the important life lessons from submitting to the Lord and pursuing Him wholeheartedly during that season. Though it might have been far from perfect, if they kept God at the center of their singlehood, they can confidently leave it behind in hopes of being in a relationship /marriage.
Be encouraged as you navigate the current season you’re in and may God give you favor to receive what’s due to you. Choose to live by faith and be fully surrendered to His leading in your life- even as you are preparing your heart to embark in a potential romantic relationship/marriage.
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